Most importantly, he must have what you want that your man doesn't! Establish the game.
Women are captains. Men are players: he should play by your rules! It is crucial that your lover knows you have a man. You see, unlike players, captains know that attempting to play two guys is like fighting a losing battle. It's too much work. It takes too much energy. Your lover needs to know you have a man. He needs to know his boundaries and your terms and conditions. Blame him. Maybe the experts are right. Maybe we cannot be involved with a guy without falling for him. This calls for preparation just incase your lover turns out to be Mr. Men are very practical.
The last thing you would want is for Mr. Right to think that since you cheated with him, you may cheat on him. Mitigation measures must be taken. You must convince your lover that he is the only guy who can make you cheat.
Why Men Who Do or Don't Cheat in Marriage and Relationships
A man's ego is as huge as a planet. Use this to your advantage. Make it appear as if it were all his idea. This will come in handy in the event that he falls in love with you and demands that you leave your man. Treat your man better than ever. Don't be like amateurs who once they start cheating neglect their man. That would be an obvious give away. Putting an "I'm cheating on you" sticker on your forehead would be less conspicuous. The reality is your man has something you still want. If he didn't, you wouldn't be cheating on him--you would've left him. Treat your man well! Knowing that he is being taken care of will also assuage any guilt that may raise its ugly head.
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That's right. Be sure to leave the "lover" part out. There are eyes and ears everywhere. Over the years, I've met a few guys who cheat on their wives and an awful lot who don't. Or let's just say I think they don't. But is it possible that these husbands refrain from cheating not so much because they love their wives, and not even because they view cheating as immoral, but for other, less laudable reasons?
Consider, if only for the sake of argument, the following explanations for why some men are faithful to their wives:. Men like to plop down on the couch and watch sports and drink beer. Romance, by contrast, is labor-intensive; you have to shower, shave, slap on some deodorant, put on something other than sweatpants, buy flowers, go to the movies, read a book every once in a while, think of compliments, engage in conversation. Cheating on your wife involves travel, dinner reservations, booking hotel rooms.
Once a man has been married a few decades , the energy he would need to expend on an extramarital affair could be a life-threatening shock to his nervous system. It would be like asking the Sahara to suddenly erupt in foliage. That's why so many older men wouldn't even think of cheating on their wives. It's too exhausting.
Women swear up and down that looks are not nearly as important to them as they are to men, that a woman will not hesitate to marry an unattractive man if he has other compensatory qualities, such as a sense of humor or a highly developed intellect or a villa in Tuscany. I only believe the part about the villa in Tuscany. I personally cannot recall the last time I saw an attractive woman with a hideous man, and I keep my eyes peeled for this sort of thing. You might see a 10 with an 8, or an 8 with a 5, but you never see a 9 with a 2. And that's the reason ugly men do not cheat on their wives.
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An ugly man is so happy that he found one woman willing to gaze at his baleful countenance for the next 40 years that there is no way he is going to risk everything by cheating on her. Having an extramarital affair takes money. Even if you don't have to shell out for airplane tickets and hotel rooms, sooner or later you're going to have to pony up for meals, flowers, chocolates, theater tickets, lingerie. According to a Gallup poll, only 6 percent of Americans view cheating as acceptable.
And 64 percent say that it is an unforgivable offense. Which means that the risks are enormous. Many men would cheat on their wives if they thought they could get away with it, but know that they can't get away with it because they're sloppy, forgetful, disorganized, dumb. They're going to put the motel charge on their credit card instead of paying cash.
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Or they're going to pay cash for the three-hour day rate in the motel but forget to tell the seedy desk clerk in the Black Sabbath T-shirt not to put the minibar charges on the Visa. They're going to make too many late-night calls to the same mysterious phone number in Vegas or Amarillo or Buenos Aires. They're going to get caught, they know they're going to get caught, and they don't want to have to deal with the consequences of getting caught.
And that's why they don't cheat. If they coulda, they woulda. But they couldn't, so they didn't. And if your girlfriend lives in another city, the travel will eventually wear you down.
Just because you'd like to cheat doesn't automatically mean that you're going to find someone willing to take you in. Much like the ugly guys, boring guys count their lucky stars that they were able to find one woman capable of staying awake while they moan about the latest Financial Accounting Standards Board standards or complain that no one ever plays Seals and Crofts or Bobby Vinton at weddings anymore.
Finding a second woman who would put up with this stuff can be a stretch. In proposing all this, I do not mean to disparage the millions and millions of men who remain scrupulously faithful to their wives because they love them, honor them, cherish them and can't imagine ever being unfaithful to them.
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Those guys are great; those guys rule the world. All I'm saying is that marital fidelity is not always the direct result of a romantic disposition or an ironclad values system. Some men would cheat on their wives — at least once — if they knew they could get away with it, if they didn't have to worry about the blowback e.
But in the final analysis, I suspect that some men don't cheat for the same reason that they don't water-ski: They're not really good at it, there's no learning curve for this sort of thing, and the results could be disastrous. See the AARP home page for deals, savings tips, trivia and more.
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